Monday, December 26, 2016

Living Authentically

For over a year now I've seen several "Master Class" programs targeting those of us in the healing arts that have a free intro, or a series of them, to a program designed to transform your life, your business and your bank account overnight. The main message given is that if you're trading "hours for dollars" in the old-fashioned (read passé) Practitioner model, then you're doing things wrong and you need to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars to attend their mastermind program to learn how to get others to spend hundreds or thousands on your mastermind program so that you can make millions of dollars (or at least hundreds of thousands) rather than just hundreds. It's okay, you're going to help a lot more people along the way.

I watched a few of those, soaking up anything I could for free to help me transform my business into one that's profitable and successful and trying to figure out how I could transform my Reiki and Tarot business into such a program and use those steps to be as successful as those other [mostly] women appear to be. I was also trying to figure out how I could spare the big bucks to take those programs so that I could make even bigger bucks. After all, we live in a society where money equals success, happiness and freedom. But something just kept feeling wrong.

I finally figured it out...that it was because the way these people make their money is to make people like me feel bad about what we do and our level of success at doing so in order for us to feel we need to pay those hundreds or thousands to them, and then we were going to learn how to do the same to others by becoming some high-power coach. Yuck. It just wasn't feeling good to me at all. 

You see, I'm a Practitioner and trading hours for dollars feels good to me because it means that I'm focusing on the needs of one person at a time, or maybe a couple, and helping with a specific issue. When I do so, that person feels special and important because for that hour or so of my time they're the most important thing to me. Just them.

I've also figured out that I don't need some system designed to help me attract clients. I work in a spiritual business where I live my beliefs everyday, and my biggest belief is that those who really need me will find me. I teach and serve by how I live my life...and I live my life authentically. That is honestly one of the biggest compliments I've ever received, and I get that often, that I am me at all times. 


Is there someone making you feel that being you is "less than" or small somehow? Take a good look inside at who you are and who you want to be, and stay true to YOU. There are books, videos and websites out there to help you figure it out, as well as what can be uncovered in a Tarot or Oracle reading...after all, life is a journey for its entirety.

Maybe someday I'll feel called to change what I'm doing and chase a bigger dream, but for now I'm happy to live my life and be true to my own self. This year, my focus will be on doing so to even a deeper level, and continuing to build my business just by being me and living my life according to the practices I share and teach, and helping others to live authentically as well. 

Monday, December 19, 2016

Is Your Glass Half Empty or Half Full?

As the holiday season is upon us, it felt like a good time to discuss the way we see the world. For many people, the first reaction to anything is the type that I call "Henny Penny, the sky is falling". Many of us see the negative, all that could go wrong, and get all down and depressed. My husband is like this, and he calls it being a realist.

Then there are those who see the silver lining in every cloud, the positive side of everything and all of the wonderful possibilities that every situation or event holds. The optimists of the world. My father and I are this type.

The holidays are supposed to be a time of cheer and generosity, good will toward others--yet it seems that instead many of us run around stressed and grumpy, selfish and in a hurry at this time. I've been seeing a lot of rude behavior lately, more than usual. All that I can figure is that these are the "glass half empty" people who find this season stressful rather than taking in the beauty and joy of it.

You get what you give out into the world since it's all just a mirror reflecting back what's inside you, so I encourage everyone this season to take a moment to look around, see the beauty, do something nice for someone and discover how that feels. Let your glass be neither half full nor half empty, but realize that although the ratio of liquid to air might change, the glass is always full...and then carry that throughout the year! Happy Holidays! 

Monday, December 12, 2016

Why Was My Outcome Different Than Predicted?

So you went to a psychic or tarot card reader, or called one online, and asked about the outcome of a situation, but it didn't turn out exactly the way they predicted and you think that they were way off and you want to know why? Were they wrong? There are a few good reasons why this can happen.

First, let's explain how "predicting the future", "divination" or "fortune telling" works, whether it's a pure psychic reading or someone using a tool like tarot cards or runes. When any of us are asking about a situation or event we're reading the energy around it in the past (fixed line), present (cauldron of possibilities) and future (many lines of potential outcomes that branch off into others). What's being read is the strongest possible outcome based upon what has gone before and what is currently happening, but since we all have free will and usually more than one person is involved in any situation, all that it takes is one person making a slightly different decision or taking a tiny fork in the road to change the outcome. I use my arm and hand to give a visual, rather like this:




The other reason can be the emotional state of either the reader or the sitter, or both. If either of you are emotionally disturbed, or emotionally attached to the outcome, the reading can be skewed. It's very important for both parties to be detached from the outcome and for the sitter to just be in a curious state rather than having a strong attachment to the outcome. It's especially common because most psychics and card readers are empaths, so we pick up on the energy of the person for whom we're reading, and then what we see reflects what they want to see because we become attached to their preferred outcome.

As an online reader I'd see this a lot: a member of the service calls in and asks their question, usually about a relationship or someone they're interested in, and when you give the answers you see in the cards you hear that "every reader gives them the same answer but it never happens". That's because they're too emotionally charged and Spirit is giving them what they want to hear because it's all they'll accept. They've probably hung up on readers who told the truth, or they told them that they were wrong and gave them bad ratings. 

So...what can be done to address these issues? One thing is for both reader and sitter to take a deep breath and center before starting the reading. The reader especially should do their best to remain neutral even if strong emotional signals are coming from the sitter. Honestly, if a sitter is in a strong emotional state, then the reader should reschedule the reading if possible.

Another option is to read the situation reframed in a more detached way, using a spread that looks more for what can be done in the situation rather than what will happen. For example, rather than "Are John and Susan going to get back together?", a better question would be something like "What does Susan need to do in order to improve her relationship with John?" There are also relationship spreads that can be used that show what he brings to it and what she brings to it, and then outcome for the relationship. It's a really good idea to have an arsenal of spreads at your fingertips to help reframe emotionally charged questions if you're a card reader, and you can use spreads designed for one type of card to work with another, even if you have to modify it slightly (for example, Lenormand is read in pairs, so use two cards for each position of a tarot spread). 

Meditation so that you keep your energy clear and grounded is very important for every reader, whether you use tools or not, because it helps you to get into a detached state easier as well, and to step into that state of relaxation and ease at any moment. It also keeps you in tune with your emotions better, and opens your channel to Spirit wider so that it's easier to listen to the Divine rather than get distracted by the energy around you. Whether you read for yourself or others, remain aware of your emotional state so that you aren't influencing your readings, and help your clients to do the same, and you'll keep your accuracy high.

And lastly, keep in mind that because Free Will exists no reader can claim 100% accuracy. A high accuracy rate is around 89%, and anyone claiming 100% is suspicious. If you're getting a reading, keep your expectations of it realistic and enjoy the experience because regardless of the final outcome of the situation, you should gain a lot of really good insight from a good reading.


Monday, December 5, 2016

Ahhh...Serendipity!!

What is serendipity? According to the Miriam-Webster Dictionary it is: “:  the faculty or phenomenon of finding valuable or agreeable things not sought for; also :  an instance of this”. I define it as what happens when you’re living in the flow and listening to your intuition, letting Spirit guide your life. Late last week I was given a perfect example of living in the flow! 

My husband and I were out running some errands, and we changed our original direction because as it happens we couldn't get our primary errand accomplished in the place we thought we could so we ended up re-routing, and that changed the places we decided to go to get the rest of our list checked off. After we finished our first errand and as we were heading towards our second one, I had a feeling we needed to make that one the last and do what was last next...again, a change of plan and direction! (Thankfully going with the flow is something we're both used to doing.) 

This didn't come without some fuss (to put it mildly) from Steve about my driving skills as I crossed lanes of traffic to head to the other side of the road and go to Walmart first rather than Lowe's, but he knows me well enough to calm down when I say that I just need to change it up and go over here first after all...and honestly, it felt as if something was pulling me there! 

So, as we pulled into the Walmart parking lot I headed over to the area that I usually park between both entrances and we got out of the car. He was ahead of me while I gathered reusable shopping bags and my purse, and as I locked the car I heard a strangely familiar voice say, "Is that Diane?!"...and looked into the very familiar face and eyes of a friend I haven't seen in over a decade! 


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f I hadn't listened to that voice, that pull to change course...if we hadn't completely changed direction that day and ventured farther afield than originally planned...if we'd arrived a few minutes earlier or later...then that moment would have been missed completely. I'm so glad that it happened, and I truly feel it was serendipitous because I had no other way to reconnect after all of these years and right now I can use good female friends who are local and I can get together with at times. I know there's a reason for this reunion because I truly do believe it all happens for a reason...time will tell as we get to catch up. 

Monday, November 28, 2016

Living In Gratitude

Everyone who knows me well knows me to be a very positive and optimistic person, and very few outside of my family ever see anything different. Honestly, that's because that's who I am...my closest friends and family can attest to that, but it's not how I've always been, I've had a dark period of my life where I was very negative. So how did I change?

After I lost my previous husband I had a grace period before grief really hit...I thought I'd dealt with all of that as he was slowly dying and it was done. (I now understand the "denial" period of grief.) I also spent that time remodeling and refurnishing our house with the inheritance money, figuring whenever it was gone I'd just get a job...this was 2007-2008. It was amazing how fast that money disappeared! And when it was gone, there weren't any jobs, the market was depressed. All that I could find were temporary jobs, and the only way I kept paying the utilities was through those and borrowing money from my friends and family. I got very depressed.

Then I came across the books "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne and "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay, and honestly they changed my life. I learned affirmations about being worthy and loved, that all is well in my world, and to wake up every day giving thanks for all that was around me. I learned to ignore the negative and focus on the positive because you get what you focus on the most. I learned to send out vibrations of abundance and love, and to forgive myself and everything around me...and it worked. 

I started getting better temp jobs that I liked, each one being better than the last as I tweaked my manifestation visualizations, and finally landed one that lasted long term, though it never went permanent and cut down from full time to part time...but by then I'd also met Steve and was remarried with two of our four sons living with us, and we were starting a Reiki business together so it was all good. 

We've been through a lot of changes over the years, and there have still been times that it's been scary for us financially with both of us being self-employed, but through it all I continue to live with "an attitude of gratitude" every day, focusing on all of the positive things in my world from bird song, sunshine or rain to either of us getting a new client...and I focus on the positive things in the lives of those around me too, being genuinely happy when someone has success in any aspect of their lives. 

I'm human and it's not always easy, but the core of my nature is sunny and optimistic so if I get into a negative state I don't stay there long. It might be harder for some whose nature is more pessimistic, but everyone can achieve living in a state of gratitude if they try. It's a matter of looking around you and seeing the beauty in what's there, seeking things to appreciate and be grateful for, and consciously trying to find that silver lining in every cloud that does come along. 

My father gave me a perfect example of that last one! When 9/11 happened, my parents lost the majority of their retirement fund and decided to invest the last of it into a clothing consignment store. They had some issues with shoplifting, but overall were doing well. Then they got a new neighbor in the strip mall, a man they later found out who had burned down his previous businesses but had not been proven to be at fault...and his new business became the eighth that he torched. They lost their entire inventory to smoke damage and my father's comment in our phone call about it was, "Well, the fire trucks are close to our store and our sign is in all of the news footage so we're getting a ton of free media coverage!" 

Yep...that's where I get it from. My dad is one of those chronically happy and optimistic people as well. He never needed to read about it, it's just who he is, and I guess this apple didn't fall far from his tree. But there are still times that I need to remind myself to focus on all of the beauty and abundance around me. 

So, when I get down, depressed or into a negative state I just focus on the thought "attitude of gratitude" and start looking around and giving thanks for everything I see, then I turn inwards and focus on giving thanks for everything (and everyone) that I can think of for at least a few minutes straight several times throughout that day rather than just my morning and evening sessions. Try it, and I think you'll find it makes a huge difference in your life! 

Monday, November 21, 2016

My Journey

So, who am I and how did I get here? These are questions I've spent decades asking, quite honestly! However I now find that I have a lot of those answers. Finally. So let me share them with you!

I've been drawn to the metaphysical and mystical, or the world of "woo woo", for most of my life. I started meditating in my early teens, lighting a candle and sitting on the rug in the middle of my bedroom and trying to follow what little I'd heard about meditation. Off and on I'd be drawn to the "occult" section (as it was known back in those times) of book stores and find interesting titles, and on one of those trips in my late 20s I bought my first Tarot deck, a Rider-Waite-Smith, which then got lost in a move before I got much use out of it. I found it garish and unappealing, with cards that were just way too big to handle, especially since I had a difficult enough time shuffling regular playing cards. 


Also in my 20s, but earlier--around 20 or 21--I had a friend who hurt his back and I was guided to place my hands on his back and start healing it. It was like getting a streaming download of information from Spirit...and it left me completely drained afterwards! Every time I was around someone who was hurt in some way my palms would throb and if they allowed me, I'd place my hands on the area and heal their pain, but afterwards I'd need to eat and sleep like I'd been deprived of both food and sleep for a week. During this time I was also raising my sons and taking them to church where I taught adult Sunday school.


Around age 39 I started being drawn towards finding another method to heal that wouldn't be so draining even though it wasn't anywhere near as bad as it used to be, just because I knew there had to be a better way than using my own life force energy to do so. That's when I discovered Wicca and Witchcraft and that the Goddess I'd read about in "The Mists of Avalon" was still worshipped today and I dedicated myself to Wicca and started studying it in earnest...much to the dismay of many around me, but I didn't let that discourage me. I also bought another deck of Tarot cards...a couple of those and some Oracle decks as well.


I have since left those practices, but still remain very connected to Nature, the Divine Feminine (as well as the Divine Masculine), and Spirit...but am now more Spiritual rather than following any religion since I've found all religions are just too dogmatic for me. There's good in each, but none fits me perfectly. (My husband likes to say he practices "Jarecki-ism", and I like that answer...in other words, "I have my own beliefs."


I've been through three divorces, one widowhood and am now married very happily for the fifth time...which apparently is my personal "charm" number. I was 44 when my late husband was diagnosed with cancer and lost his battle, and during this time I sought solace in a haven
I'd found called The Mesa Creative Arts Center, owned by Brad and Kate Silberberg (sadly Kate has since also passed on), who became my dear friends and mentors. I also started to study to be a Doctor of Naturopathy, a decision I made after having a doctor tell us that, "it's not the cancer that kills you, it's the chemo that does" and deciding that western medicine could no longer be the direction I could go anymore. (I spent years working and studying in it, having been a Medical Assistant, a CNA and a nursing student.)

The Mesa is where I became a Reiki Practitioner and started attending a lot of classes to become more and more immersed in the "world of woo-woo", getting healing, readings, and starting to consciously work on further developing my intuition and psychic gifts...and starting to really focus on starting to read Tarot and Oracles for others. I started meditating again as well, and this is also where I met my current husband, Steve, at a Reiki Share. 

Today my studies continue on several topics, and now I teach what I've learned over the past few decades. I am now a Reiki Master/Teacher, a professional Tarot and Oracle reader, an Intuitive Energy Healer and a teacher of many things. It's been a long journey, but I've appreciated every bit of it along the way and am glad to be where I am now...and to help others find their way by providing a haven, a safe space, for a new set of people as was once provided for me. I've been blessed, and it's my pleasure to share those blessings with others.