Monday, December 26, 2016

Living Authentically

For over a year now I've seen several "Master Class" programs targeting those of us in the healing arts that have a free intro, or a series of them, to a program designed to transform your life, your business and your bank account overnight. The main message given is that if you're trading "hours for dollars" in the old-fashioned (read passé) Practitioner model, then you're doing things wrong and you need to spend hundreds or thousands of dollars to attend their mastermind program to learn how to get others to spend hundreds or thousands on your mastermind program so that you can make millions of dollars (or at least hundreds of thousands) rather than just hundreds. It's okay, you're going to help a lot more people along the way.

I watched a few of those, soaking up anything I could for free to help me transform my business into one that's profitable and successful and trying to figure out how I could transform my Reiki and Tarot business into such a program and use those steps to be as successful as those other [mostly] women appear to be. I was also trying to figure out how I could spare the big bucks to take those programs so that I could make even bigger bucks. After all, we live in a society where money equals success, happiness and freedom. But something just kept feeling wrong.

I finally figured it out...that it was because the way these people make their money is to make people like me feel bad about what we do and our level of success at doing so in order for us to feel we need to pay those hundreds or thousands to them, and then we were going to learn how to do the same to others by becoming some high-power coach. Yuck. It just wasn't feeling good to me at all. 

You see, I'm a Practitioner and trading hours for dollars feels good to me because it means that I'm focusing on the needs of one person at a time, or maybe a couple, and helping with a specific issue. When I do so, that person feels special and important because for that hour or so of my time they're the most important thing to me. Just them.

I've also figured out that I don't need some system designed to help me attract clients. I work in a spiritual business where I live my beliefs everyday, and my biggest belief is that those who really need me will find me. I teach and serve by how I live my life...and I live my life authentically. That is honestly one of the biggest compliments I've ever received, and I get that often, that I am me at all times. 

Is there someone making you feel that being you is "less than" or small somehow? Take a good look inside at who you are and who you want to be, and stay true to YOU. There are books, videos and websites out there to help you figure it out, as well as what can be uncovered in a Tarot or Oracle reading...after all, life is a journey for its entirety.

Maybe someday I'll feel called to change what I'm doing and chase a bigger dream, but for now I'm happy to live my life and be true to my own self. This year, my focus will be on doing so to even a deeper level, and continuing to build my business just by being me and living my life according to the practices I share and teach, and helping others to live authentically as well. 

Monday, December 19, 2016

Is Your Glass Half Empty or Half Full?

As the holiday season is upon us, it felt like a good time to discuss the way we see the world. For many people, the first reaction to anything is the type that I call "Henny Penny, the sky is falling". Many of us see the negative, all that could go wrong, and get all down and depressed. My husband is like this, and he calls it being a realist.

Then there are those who see the silver lining in every cloud, the positive side of everything and all of the wonderful possibilities that every situation or event holds. The optimists of the world. My father and I are this type.

The holidays are supposed to be a time of cheer and generosity, good will toward others--yet it seems that instead many of us run around stressed and grumpy, selfish and in a hurry at this time. I've been seeing a lot of rude behavior lately, more than usual. All that I can figure is that these are the "glass half empty" people who find this season stressful rather than taking in the beauty and joy of it.

You get what you give out into the world since it's all just a mirror reflecting back what's inside you, so I encourage everyone this season to take a moment to look around, see the beauty, do something nice for someone and discover how that feels. Let your glass be neither half full nor half empty, but realize that although the ratio of liquid to air might change, the glass is always full...and then carry that throughout the year! Happy Holidays! 

Monday, December 12, 2016

Why Was My Outcome Different Than Predicted?

So you went to a psychic or tarot card reader, or called one online, and asked about the outcome of a situation, but it didn't turn out exactly the way they predicted and you think that they were way off and you want to know why? Were they wrong? There are a few good reasons why this can happen.

First, let's explain how "predicting the future", "divination" or "fortune telling" works, whether it's a pure psychic reading or someone using a tool like tarot cards or runes. When any of us are asking about a situation or event we're reading the energy around it in the past (fixed line), present (cauldron of possibilities) and future (many lines of potential outcomes that branch off into others). What's being read is the strongest possible outcome based upon what has gone before and what is currently happening, but since we all have free will and usually more than one person is involved in any situation, all that it takes is one person making a slightly different decision or taking a tiny fork in the road to change the outcome. I use my arm and hand to give a visual, rather like this:

The other reason can be the emotional state of either the reader or the sitter, or both. If either of you are emotionally disturbed, or emotionally attached to the outcome, the reading can be skewed. It's very important for both parties to be detached from the outcome and for the sitter to just be in a curious state rather than having a strong attachment to the outcome. It's especially common because most psychics and card readers are empaths, so we pick up on the energy of the person for whom we're reading, and then what we see reflects what they want to see because we become attached to their preferred outcome.

As an online reader I'd see this a lot: a member of the service calls in and asks their question, usually about a relationship or someone they're interested in, and when you give the answers you see in the cards you hear that "every reader gives them the same answer but it never happens". That's because they're too emotionally charged and Spirit is giving them what they want to hear because it's all they'll accept. They've probably hung up on readers who told the truth, or they told them that they were wrong and gave them bad ratings. 

So...what can be done to address these issues? One thing is for both reader and sitter to take a deep breath and center before starting the reading. The reader especially should do their best to remain neutral even if strong emotional signals are coming from the sitter. Honestly, if a sitter is in a strong emotional state, then the reader should reschedule the reading if possible.

Another option is to read the situation reframed in a more detached way, using a spread that looks more for what can be done in the situation rather than what will happen. For example, rather than "Are John and Susan going to get back together?", a better question would be something like "What does Susan need to do in order to improve her relationship with John?" There are also relationship spreads that can be used that show what he brings to it and what she brings to it, and then outcome for the relationship. It's a really good idea to have an arsenal of spreads at your fingertips to help reframe emotionally charged questions if you're a card reader, and you can use spreads designed for one type of card to work with another, even if you have to modify it slightly (for example, Lenormand is read in pairs, so use two cards for each position of a tarot spread). 

Meditation so that you keep your energy clear and grounded is very important for every reader, whether you use tools or not, because it helps you to get into a detached state easier as well, and to step into that state of relaxation and ease at any moment. It also keeps you in tune with your emotions better, and opens your channel to Spirit wider so that it's easier to listen to the Divine rather than get distracted by the energy around you. Whether you read for yourself or others, remain aware of your emotional state so that you aren't influencing your readings, and help your clients to do the same, and you'll keep your accuracy high.

And lastly, keep in mind that because Free Will exists no reader can claim 100% accuracy. A high accuracy rate is around 89%, and anyone claiming 100% is suspicious. If you're getting a reading, keep your expectations of it realistic and enjoy the experience because regardless of the final outcome of the situation, you should gain a lot of really good insight from a good reading.

Monday, December 5, 2016


What is serendipity? According to the Miriam-Webster Dictionary it is: “:  the faculty or phenomenon of finding valuable or agreeable things not sought for; also :  an instance of this”. I define it as what happens when you’re living in the flow and listening to your intuition, letting Spirit guide your life. Late last week I was given a perfect example of living in the flow! 

My husband and I were out running some errands, and we changed our original direction because as it happens we couldn't get our primary errand accomplished in the place we thought we could so we ended up re-routing, and that changed the places we decided to go to get the rest of our list checked off. After we finished our first errand and as we were heading towards our second one, I had a feeling we needed to make that one the last and do what was last next...again, a change of plan and direction! (Thankfully going with the flow is something we're both used to doing.) 

This didn't come without some fuss (to put it mildly) from Steve about my driving skills as I crossed lanes of traffic to head to the other side of the road and go to Walmart first rather than Lowe's, but he knows me well enough to calm down when I say that I just need to change it up and go over here first after all...and honestly, it felt as if something was pulling me there! 

So, as we pulled into the Walmart parking lot I headed over to the area that I usually park between both entrances and we got out of the car. He was ahead of me while I gathered reusable shopping bags and my purse, and as I locked the car I heard a strangely familiar voice say, "Is that Diane?!"...and looked into the very familiar face and eyes of a friend I haven't seen in over a decade! 

f I hadn't listened to that voice, that pull to change course...if we hadn't completely changed direction that day and ventured farther afield than originally planned...if we'd arrived a few minutes earlier or later...then that moment would have been missed completely. I'm so glad that it happened, and I truly feel it was serendipitous because I had no other way to reconnect after all of these years and right now I can use good female friends who are local and I can get together with at times. I know there's a reason for this reunion because I truly do believe it all happens for a reason...time will tell as we get to catch up.